Divorce is never anyone’s first option. However, there are better and worse ways to end a marriage. For example, a contested divorce costs both sides more emotionally and financially.
The most recent figures for Connecticut put the divorce rate at 1.6 per 1000 inhabitants. This represents a downward trend that many states across the country mirror. Perhaps the lower divorce rates have something to do with couples being more willing to work out their differences and try for an amicable divorce. However, you should avoid the following mistakes if you want that to happen when your marriage ends.
Do not refuse to compromise
Many people make the mistake of focusing on one aspect of the divorce and refusing to let go. A successful uncontested divorce requires some compromise. Make a list of your goals and rank them from most to least significant. You might need to concede one of the less essential demands.
Do not default to a trial
No divorce is easy but remember that a contested divorce with a trial creates several more challenges. It is likely to provoke resentment between you and your spouse, lengthen the process and drive up the costs. Keep this in mind before you give up on an amicable settlement. Uncontested divorces are not always possible, but you should always consider one as your first option.
Sometimes there is no way to repair the damage in a marriage. This does not mean you cannot work together to move forward with your lives. Try to communicate with your spouse throughout the process and keep things civil. In the long run, you will not regret it.
